One way to heal a broken heart is to distract yourself. Become a workaholic…or a partyaholic! Either way start cultivating new interests and hobbies to form that "new you".
Once you’ve found your particular interest immerse yourself in the activity. If your at a critical time at school and have exams and coursework to complete, don’t let your ex stop you from doing that. In fact get your head down, get stuck in and reach higher grades and results then you could ever have expected. That way you will reward yourself by learning that your better off without them.
If you’re at a point where you’ve got a bit of space to let your hair down for a while then go mad with your friends or family. Go out and party at your local youth club. Dance until you feel your legs are about to drop off. Have a therapeutic day of shopping…for this its always best to take your mum as she has the cash and the sympathy for her loving daughter.
Or if your lucky enough to have a school holiday to recover over your tragic event use this time to go on a break. You might be lucky enough to be going on holiday with your family. If you are then use this time to forget about what’s happened and concentrate on having fun and relaxing. If you can’t make a holiday then go out on lots of day trips to fun parks etc. This way you’ll have a fun-packed break and forget about all of your troubles.
If you’ve accepted your situation then pampered yourself. Taken out all of your aggression but then have gone back into denial. If you’ve come out of your hole, achieved a goal and a new interest and actually enjoyed a break with your mates or your family, then I can safely say that you are at the final stage of recovery!
Yes you heard the word…re-cov-er-y! That means that you have basically got over the pig that caused you all of this upset. You might occasionally have a lapse and slip back into the "feeling sorry for yourself mood" but that is acceptable – but only if it is occasionally.
As long as you can wake up without crying, raise the corners of your mouth and produce a smile once in a while. And find a few events funny every day then I’d say that you’re pretty much on your way to total recovery.
During the recovery process you will find that revenge will become quite tempting for you. Usually with revenge it will involve man/womengrabbing whilst attempting to make your ex jealous – otherwise known as "on the rebound". Rebounding isn’t there just to make your ex jealous but it will also make you feel better about yourself. You will realise that other people do fancy you and you are capable of having other relationships.
You should expect the Rebounder to be the complete opposite of your ex. And hopefully if you do want to seek revenge on your ex your newamore will be their rival archenemy! (Think of Robbie Williams/Liam Gallagher and Nicole Appleton fiasco!) However, be careful when playing the rebound game. If the rebound gets too close you might end up hurting them as much as your ex hurt you…not good! On the other hand if he might opt out quicker than you think. Getting dumped twice in quick succession does not help…in fact you will probably feel worse than when originally dumped.
So play it safe. If a rebound does not sound like an option for you then: 1) Have a medal, as most of us can’t resist the temptation and 2) Read our guide on how to annoy your ex for other revenge strategies.
Whatever the outcome remember if they hurt you then it really isn’t worth the upset. You will soon prove to yourself that you can do better without them. Just stick to our guide and you’ll be fan-dabby-dosy!
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