Different Circumstances of Loss...

There are also many circumstances which can change how you react to a death.

Dying After A Long Term Illness

If someone you know and are close to dies after a long term illness and you knew they were likely to die it does give you a chance to plan ahead and to think about what could happen. However, that does not mean that you have any less right to grieve when they do die. You may still feel awful for a very long time and very upset. It could also be that you may feel relieved because now they are no longer suffering and you should not feel guilty about this. It is a natural feeling.

Dying Suddenly

If you are not expecting someone to die and they die either from an accident or they die from committing suicide, it can be very difficult. You may have had plans together or you just think it is unfair that their life should have been cut so short. These are all normal feelings. You may even feel guilty that you did not tell them something or, in the case of suicides, you may feel guilty over not being able to help them or not noticing that they were so unhappy. As with all types of grieving there is no particularly way you should deal with a loss. You could talk to people, cry, just remember the person who has died or you could shout something from the top of a tall place just to let out your anger. You should do what you can to make yourself feel better although if you feel too bad you should talk to someone who can give you counselling. Never get too low. However hard it is, you will feel better and will be able to remember the happy times you had with that person.

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