Friendships...A Survival Guide Friendships, everyone has them, everyone loves them but sometimes things happen that we don't want or expect. So what do you do if your friendships go wrong? Friends are an important part of everyone's life, they support us when we need it most, but growing up sometimes makes rela tionships a lot harder than they need to be. There are many things that may affect your friendships; often most problems arise with girls, as boys tend to settle their differences with a fight, although this probably isn't the best way to deal with things!
We all develop into different people, so you have to accept your friends will change but your true mates will always stay with you. By learning to cope with these changes your relationships will always be stronger.
Do you think people are talking behind your back?
If you think your mates may be spreading rumours, you need to find out exactly what has been said and why they have said it. Tell your friends it hurts you, and ask him or her to stop. If this simple request has no effect, you need to consider whether you really want to be friends with this person. Do you feel left out? It's often hard when a friend decides they want to be best mates with someone other than you. But by accepting this, you can use it as an opportunity to broaden your circle of friends; however, make sure you are willing to stay on good terms with your old mate. Being friendly with everyone will earn you the respect and popularity you deserve. Feeling forgotten? Sometimes a best mate can be forced away by a new boyfriend or girlfriend. You need to remember the fact that although your mate has someone new in their life, you are still important to them. Suggest spending some time together so you can share news. This will help make you feel more involved in your friend's life again, and you can be happy for them, rather than annoyed. Have you had an argument? Disagreeing on the smallest of things can cause big problems, so you need to sort out your priorities. What's it to be - your pride or your friendship? If you know you are in the wrong, apologise and take it from there. An occasional argument is a healthy part of any relationship, and as long as it doesn't go too far you can use it as a chance to clear the air and start afresh. Do you think your mate if jealous of you, or perhaps you are jealous of them? It's hard to admit it, but people can be jealous of anything from clothes to family life. Either way, by concentrating on your own good points or helping your mate do this for him or herself, there should be no reason for jealousy to destroy a friendship. Friendships can be very hard to maintain, but by communicating, trusting and helping each other, you will be rewarded in the end :o) "Love is friendship set on fire - never to be extinguished" - resident_daydreamer
"Friendship is the only cement that will hold the world together" - Riki Leona
"The holy passion of friendship is of so sweet and steady and loyal and enduring a nature that it will last through a whole lifetime" - Mark Twain
"True friendship is a plant of slow growth, and must undergo and withstand the shocks of diversity" - George Washington Support/advice sites:
http://www.teenadviceonline.org
http://www.youthwhocare.com/advice.html
http://www.lucie.com Girlie magazine type sites:
http://www.wowgo.com
http://www.mykindaplace.com
http://www.girlland.com
Sarah :o)
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